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There are already two months since
Sasha was born, I still
find it pretty amazing, I still re-live Lili being pregnant in her last
month
with all the difficulty of the situation, the trips to the hospital,
the day of
birth with all it’s emotions. It is just unbelievable that
thing that used to
signal us it’s presence from Lily tummy now it is a real
person, next to me.
We
waited around 5 years till we decided to have a child, we
did right, but somehow we look at him every day and ask ourselves the
same questions,
how could we stay so long without having a child. We are qualified as a
bit
anti-social, as we don’t really like to go out, and we
weren’t really attached
to babies, but somehow the feelings related to Sasha where right there
from the
first moment we saw him.
He
is a wonderful child, healthy and happy, which makes us extraordinarily
happy parents. I’m not saying that we don’t have
our moments, Sasha has, as almost
every newborn, gases, colic’s, and some seborrheic
dermatitis, but still he
almost never cries without a reason. It’s a bit of a puzzle
from time to time
to find out exactly what is bothering him, but once found he is a quiet
and
smiling child.
We
had some troubles at the beginning, Lili had one breast
injured which made us worry that he might not be getting enough milk.
Things
where made worst by the first visit of our pediatrician who said after
consulting Lili that she definitely doesn’t have enough milk
so we should start
giving him supplement. For sure every person you meet it expert in
newborn
raising so we where assured by everybody that once the baby starts
bottle
feeding he will quit breastfeeding. Well it didn’t happen.
Till the breast
healed, from time to time we needed to bottle feed him, but that
definitely
didn’t make him refuse the next breast feed. So in our case,
that proved to be
a myth. He grew constantly both in weight as in length, as a matter of
fact,
event that we feed him whenever he needed it, he was constantly spot on
the growth
charts.
I
don’t know, it feels so easy, with all the little
problems, at the beginning we even worried that it is too easy; we even
managed
to get enough sleep. Hopefully things will stay like this. Somewhere at
the beginning
of April he will be baptized, and after that given that the wheatear
will be
better we could start taking him outside, to fresh air (as fresh as you
can get
in a city).
I’m
sure having most of our friends with newborns also
helped. We learned not to panic, and we learn how to use the internet.
Every
time we had trouble, we found our answers on the net, and happily all
the
answers where reassuring. That’s
how we
learned that he has seborrheic dermatitis, confirmed be our doctor,
that
cortisone based treatments are used, which worked, but only for a short
time,
that you are not supposed to use it for really long time. Happily a
non-cortisone based cream helped, also having him bath in real Camilla
tea and
not with the Camilla extract did magic. From time to time it reappears
in a
very mild form, but it is nothing to be concerned about as it is barely
visible
and usually disappears after the next Camilla tea bath. Oh and he loves
water.
In the last two month he never, and I mean, never ever cried during a
bath.
March 17th, 2006
Yesterday I went to Fehergyarmat to bring Lili and little
Sasha home.
The big event should have happen last Friday but by the time
we’ve got there Lili had fewer and the doctors decided not to
let her (and the baby home) until causes are investigated and Lili is
fully recovered.
By the time we’ve got back home her fever was gone
so that
was a little bit relieving, the next morning the blood test results
where ready and it turned out that the same bacteria which Sasha had
Lili has it too. Probably because she has an immune system unlike the
little baby (which seems to relay on the mother’s milk for
that) reacted a bit late to it. So the doctors considered another five
days in hospital with antibiotics and after that another blood test and
if everything is all right she will be released home.
In a way this was good, first of all because it seems that the
bacteria
was from the hospital and not from Lili, therefore reducing the risk of
complications created by an in-uterus infection, second of all because
they seemed to know what they are talking about (that bacteria was not
new to them) a quick diagnostic and treatment available, I would not
want to imagine what would have happen if we would have made it home,
and Lili developed the fever here with all the incompetent doctors from
this city. And last, the next morning, the baby was moved from the
intensive care unit to her room and stayed there till we came back
home, this was welcomed as it gave her a little bit of time to get used
to the baby and to it’s habits and handling issues.
Yesterday another blood test was done, everything came up good
so they
where released home. The trip back was fine, while outside was very
cold the road was good and in around 45 minutes we where in the worm
and safety of our home. I’m am after the first 24 hours with
him and he is an angel I just can not find another word to best
describe it, he eats, sleeps, dreams and once in a while cries and he
does all that pretty much like a clockwork, very few and little
exceptions. While he woke us up tree times last night he was even
better behaved than during the day time, hope that will not change.
We often found ourselves with Lili watching him sleep for
hours still
not believing that we have a child that is so beautiful that we are so
lucky that we went in Hungary two and came home three and that will
stay like that for many, many years.
During the last 13 days, maybe for the first time in my life I was and
felt disconnected from everything except those two magic human beings
from my life. No news feeds, no programming no Java, C#, Progress and
patterns or computers crossed my mind for any fraction of a second.
It’s time to slowly focus back on my work at least part time
:) and a new life routine to slowly take its shape.
January 26th, 2006
Yesterday (14 Ian 2006) at 16:15 (Romanian time, 15:15
Hungarian time)
Pereni Sasha David was born with 3,700 Kg and 58 cm.
It all started at 5:00 AM as we headed to the hospital to do
the
standards checkups just like we did one and two days before, as the
estimated date (13 Ian 2006) got close and passed by we where asked to
come daily. Lili felt well as a matter of fact she felt that definitely
nothing unusual is happening so probably we’ll be back home
son.
Once there we did the NST
test, the doctor considered that the
movements where not enough so asked for a CST
test, we
weren’t scared we’ve been there once as Sasha is
really moody and not very active in the morning.
So Lili was taken into the delivery room and given a very
small dose of
oxytocin to stimulate a couple of contractions while the contractions
and child hart rate where monitored, we where waiting outside.
After two hours, aldo the heart rate was ok and there were
some
movements the doctors where not completely satisfied with how the child
responds to the contractions and considering that we where a bit over
the estimated date decided not to risk and induce the labor.
At that point Lili was given a full dose of oxytocin (to
stimulate
contractions and dilatation) and prepared by the nurses to deliver
while I have been asked to change into sterile clothes and join Lili.
We staid alone in the delivery room smiling at each other not
believing
that it finally happens and waiting for the contractions to appear.
They did not so the doctor decided to use Prostaglandins gel and also
do an ultrasound investigation. Surprise, in the last two weeks the
baby turned over so now he was head up instead of head down as he
should have been an as he was at the previous ultrasound investigation,
this was possible mainly because Lili had a little bit more amniotic
fluid so the baby had the possibility to move more easily.
Aldo breech babies can be delivered normally it is more risky
so the
doctor decided to use cesarean delivery. For some reason she had to be
a little bit dilatated so we where left alone again for another two
hours so the gel could do his magic. And it did, Lili was soon having
contractions. Around 15:30 the anesthetist came and explained the
procedure and the nurses started preparing Lili for the intervention.
At 16:00 I was asked to wait outside but still in the delivery zone in
the sterile clothes so I could see the baby as soon as possible while
Lili was taken into the operating room. At around 16:17 I was called by
a nurse, the baby was out and crying in front of me.
At that point I could change back in my regular clothes and
could wait
outside of the delivery zone to Lili. At 17:00 the doctor came
congratulated me and said that everything is perfect the intervention
went smooth and both the baby and Lili was fine and she would come out
soon. At 17:00 she was carried to the intensive care unit, still under
epidural anesthetic she smiled and was happy. A couple of minutes later
I was called to visit her.
After staying a little bit with Lili the nurse called me to
show the
baby, I tried recording it on my camera you can see it here but
definitely not the camera was on my mind as you will see it from the
recording, then went back to Lili. She will have to stay in the
intensive care unit for 24 hours and if everything is fine today she
will be transferred to a regular room and the baby will stay with her.
Because there was a caesarian delivery she will have to stay
in
hospital for 7 days instead of 5 so if everything is OK next Saturday
we are all home.
I will go visit her daily while taking pictures and movies, if
you are
interested you can check my Flickr
photos and YouTube
for videos and
updates.
January 15th, 2006
Today was my last work day at noLimits, while packing I could not stop thinking about the sadness I felt, even do I did the right thing. But I guess I can not feel in any other way, I put my best into the company and I’m extremely proud of the infrastructure, technologies, methodologies and people I have influenced as I am with the products we imagined, implemented and delivered, it would be hard to forget all those sleepless nights, thought milestones, challenging requirements, exhausting brainstorming sessions and exalting team moments when everything „just” works as beautifully as we imagined.
But life goes on, and I’m looking forward to start working again with the company which helped me become what I am, hopefully my knowledge, attitude and experience will help both Nethrom the company as it’s clients.
November 22nd, 2005
There are not many words left unsaid, so just go and
read Adam Bosworth’s entry, I wish there would be a way that a couple of people who think the same could change the world.
November 11th, 2005
Apparently, if you know how to look, which I didn’t manage to get it yet, you could see that we have a son. Till now everything is just perfect, both Lili and the baby seems to be perfectly healthy and hopefully things will stay this way. The name we choose for the baby is Pereni Sasha David and if he will behave will probably get born sometime in the middle of January, if not and want to surprise us will do it around the new year’s eve. We’ll just see
November 6th, 2005
There
are moments in life when you have to draw a line, let the past behind
you and take a turn hoping that the new road will take you into the
right direction ...
Continue Reading October 29th, 2005
Well, it finally happened, my brother just graduated University of Oradea, funny enough that both of us have the same specialty, "Computer Science and Industrial Automation" even if at different universities, what where the odds ?
June 10th, 2005
It’s
been some time since my last update, time in which I have spent 12
wonderful days around Europe. Started with Holland, Germany, France,
Belgium and then back to Holland. Still my country top is unchanged
with Holland leading, and I don’t even do drugs 
I don’t exactly know
the reason, I like the people which are worm and friendly I like their
mentality love for nature and respect for the others. However the city
preferences have changed, Bruxelle beats everything, sorry that’s my
opinion. Paris is OK by day but spectacular during the night, oh and
Amsterdam the city of 100 canals and 1000 bridges should I tell you
anything more? Hope to have some pictures soon.
Meanwhile preparing for the 0.7a release of "SpaceMapper", the new
"mn8" and "DataStore" will be out there in the next 2, 3 days.
October 14th, 2002
I’m a workalchoolic, I am one because, maybe, I like to be one. It is all I do, all I want. I wake up in the morning and I want to be in front of my computer, from Monday to Saturday and Sunday.
Still, working or just lurking on the Net doesn’t give me that plus of excitement as sometimes used, maybe I’m just getting old or something. So, today I just realized what I do. I buy things on line, new Visor, laptop, keyboard, mouse wheel, midi keyboard, books, and so on. On line is important, maybe just because the delivery will be somewhere in the future, an exciting moment. Pathetic way of getting excitement in you life, still, it works you have a future path marked with spots, all you have to do is wait and at some point you will find a new exciting gadget to play with for a couple of days after which you start hunting for your next one.
I am happy with all this, except when some stupid ignorant are playing with your order and keep promising you new phony spots, just like now is happening.
July 12th, 2002
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